The two things I realized were:
- Social skills matter, since there is a process which tends to put me to a position where I run into trouble if I don't have enough social skills. The process has repeated thus far two times. There are valid reasons to believe both that it will repeat itself and that it won't repeat itself a third time .
- Having your shit together goes a long way. Even without social skills, you may become a one-eyed king in the land of the blind.
So, here are a few posts about getting a rich social life.
Mostly, we thing you're boring.
Loud for sure. Less reckless than you might think.